As a therapist who specializes in working with neurodivergent adults, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing their resilience and creativity while supporting them in navigating a world that isn’t always built with their needs in mind. Neurodivergence—a term that encompasses conditions like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, giftedness, and more—is not a flaw or deficit; rather, it represents different ways of thinking, processing, and experiencing the world. That said, it doesn’t always feel like a “superpower” and does create difficulty in people’s lives. My goal as a therapist is to create a space where neurodivergent individuals learn to understood themselves better and feel empowered to thrive.
Individualized Approach in Therapy
One of the most crucial aspects of working with neurodivergent clients is recognizing their uniqueness. The neurodivergent community is diverse, and no two individuals are alike. Therapy isn’t about applying a one-size-fits-all model or attempting to “normalize” clients. Instead, we focus on understanding their unique strengths, challenges, and experiences.
For example, some neurodivergent adults may experience sensory sensitivities, social anxiety, or executive functioning difficulties. In therapy, we explore strategies tailored to their specific needs, whether it’s developing tools for time management, practicing self-advocacy, or understanding the role sensory triggers play in daily life. Collaboratively, we create a roadmap that aligns with their goals and values.
One way we do this is to explore things like ‘energy accounting’ or what types of sensory experiences they seek or avoid, so that we can better predict what experiences or environments will challenge them so we can plan for them and which ones re-energize them.
Addressing Stigma and Self-Acceptance
A significant part of therapy involves addressing the societal stigma surrounding neurodivergence. Many clients come to me carrying the weight of misunderstanding and judgment they’ve faced throughout their lives. Therapy becomes a space for challenging those negative narratives and fostering self-acceptance. Especially in late-diagnosed adults, there is a significant need to re-story their lives from one of failure to one of being failed.
We work together to reframe limiting beliefs, exploring the strengths and abilities that neurodivergent individuals bring to their communities and workplaces. This shift in perspective is transformative, allowing clients to embrace their neurodivergent identity with pride.
Balancing Coping Strategies and Authenticity
I often walk a delicate line between helping clients develop coping strategies to navigate neurotypical environments and encouraging them to honor their authentic selves. This balance that I try to tread is very similar to one clients need to tread in their own lives – that balance of the yin and yang of compassion. Therapy isn’t about teaching neurodivergent individuals to conform but rather equipping them with tools that help them engage with the world on their terms.
For instance, we might work on techniques to manage sensory overwhelm or communicate more effectively in challenging situations. At the same time, we celebrate their distinct ways of thinking and encourage them to prioritize environments and relationships that respect and nurture their neurodivergence.
Collaboration and Advocacy
Effective therapy extends beyond the therapy room. It involves advocating for systemic changes that promote inclusion and accessibility. Many neurodivergent adults encounter barriers in education, employment, and healthcare settings. I strive to empower clients with the knowledge and skills to advocate for themselves and connect with resources and communities that share their experiences.
Building partnerships with families, employers, and other professionals is also essential in creating a supportive network. Together, we can challenge biases and encourage environments that embrace neurodivergent strengths.
Conclusion: Therapy as a Catalyst for Growth
Therapy is not a cure or a fix—it’s a journey of growth, self-discovery, and empowerment. For neurodivergent adults, it’s a space to feel seen, validated, and respected in a world that often misunderstands them. I am continually inspired by my clients’ resilience, resourcefulness, and unwavering authenticity. My role is to walk alongside them, shining a light on their strengths and supporting them in creating a life that celebrates their neurodivergent identity.
To any neurodivergent adult considering therapy: you are not alone, and your voice matters. Therapy is here to help you embrace your uniqueness and thrive in your journey.